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muttondressedaslamb, on 22 February 2010 - 11:57 PM, said:
This is sh*t but do not despair. You need to deal with this now so you can look back on this sooner rather than later as a learning experience that has made you a better person. Get rid of her phone number and other steps that you can think of to stop the temptation of getting in contact with her. Get something else on the go to occupy your time. Make plans for something that will take up time, a holiday, ways of making money, building/making things etc. This didn't work for me but when my mate split up with the person she thought she was going to spend the rest of her life with, she joined match.com, met a guy a few weeks later and they are getting married in a couple of months. It may be something worth thinking about? I always remember her saying that meeting someone else is the best way of getting over someone. I don't necessarily agree with that but it may work for you. Time gets you over someone and time being spent doing new things and meeting new people will help even more,
You will get over it, you just have to go through this shitty period first. Take small steps and thank yourself for them, don't contact her for a day - good, 2 days - even better, 3 days and so on and so on...I hope that soon you will be feeling better about this. And being single isn't all bad! In fact it can be absolutely immense. You will come out of this experience a better person, I know it. My mate and I were discussing this the other day about how good the single life is after leaving a shitty relationship. You are a stronger person, more rounded hopefully and unwilling to put up with sh*t. I believe that these characeritics make you more attractive to the opposite sex anyway. Who wants to be with someone who is pathetic on their own or some sort of wallflower type, male or female? Not me anyway. But in my honest opinion you are acting like this at the moment. You WILL be fine, I promise you that. Just talk to others, not her, when you feel the need to talk.
You will get over it, you just have to go through this shitty period first. Take small steps and thank yourself for them, don't contact her for a day - good, 2 days - even better, 3 days and so on and so on...I hope that soon you will be feeling better about this. And being single isn't all bad! In fact it can be absolutely immense. You will come out of this experience a better person, I know it. My mate and I were discussing this the other day about how good the single life is after leaving a shitty relationship. You are a stronger person, more rounded hopefully and unwilling to put up with sh*t. I believe that these characeritics make you more attractive to the opposite sex anyway. Who wants to be with someone who is pathetic on their own or some sort of wallflower type, male or female? Not me anyway. But in my honest opinion you are acting like this at the moment. You WILL be fine, I promise you that. Just talk to others, not her, when you feel the need to talk.
Cheers for the advice. Meeting anyone else is the last thing I want just now though, can see how it might work for some folk, but wouldn't be fair on me or them.
Felt a bit better today, but kind of peaks and troughs just now really.
Oh and thanks for calling me a 'wallflower'!
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